Tuesday, January 8, 2013

love dare continued

today the love dare got a little interesting.

we were supposed to make a list of things we don't like about our spouse and a list of things we do like.

then hide them somewhere to use for a rainy day (aka i think another love dare is going to use them) and sometime throughout the day tell your spouse one thing you like about them and how you appreciate them for being that way.

easy peasey.

case in point:

my folding drew's socks instead of balling them up inside each other (I HATE THAT SO MUCH!) and he looks at me while eating hershey kisses and says, "oh yeah. another thing to add to my negative list about you."

cute :)

he then proceeded to tell me while we were driving to the gym that "i had beautiful eyes" and he thanked me for that. :)

I complained that the list wasn't supposed to be physical characteristics but he argued it could be anything he liked about me and that is what he chose to share with me.

hahahaha.

i checked the book and he was right. So much for that, "oh lindsay I love your kind and gentle heart..." :)

so after dinner I sat down to make my list.



it was so weird. I would get on a roll with great things about my hubby and then I would think of a random "negative" thing. That would get me on a bad path and a few minutes would go with frantic writing on the negative list.

the point of this love dare? the book talked about how whatever you focus on is what you will cultivate and grow in your relationship. 

try and stay away from that negative list. or if you have to visit it occasionally, write LOVE in huge capital letters with a sharpie over it. (theoretically :)

i think drew was getting nervous because although I had written my list, I hadn't "thanked" him for any of the characteristics. Look what happens to mosey into my lap after dinner, served by Drew.



peanut butter track icecream and some wine. without me even ASKING. :)

he was sucking up ;)

i waited awhile and then thanked him for what I was going to thank him for even BEFORE the butler service. :) 

thank you Drew, for being thoughtful :) 

"your spouse is a living, breathing, endless book to be read. Dreams and hopes have yet to be realized. Talents and abilities may be discovered like hidden treasure. But the choice to explore them starts with a decision by you.

you MUST develop the habit of reigning in your negative thoughts and focusing on the positive attributes of your mate. This is a crucial step as you learn to lead your heart to truly love your spouse.

It is a decision that YOU make, whether they deserve it or not."

so yes. cheesy. cheesy. cheesy. almost as bad as Drew thanking my for having beautiful eyes or him delivering me icecream and wine. it's more fun to focus on that though, instead of his horrid laundry folding abilities. (nah, who needs their pants unwrinkled? not me. ;)







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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

love dare continued

today the love dare got a little interesting.

we were supposed to make a list of things we don't like about our spouse and a list of things we do like.

then hide them somewhere to use for a rainy day (aka i think another love dare is going to use them) and sometime throughout the day tell your spouse one thing you like about them and how you appreciate them for being that way.

easy peasey.

case in point:

my folding drew's socks instead of balling them up inside each other (I HATE THAT SO MUCH!) and he looks at me while eating hershey kisses and says, "oh yeah. another thing to add to my negative list about you."

cute :)

he then proceeded to tell me while we were driving to the gym that "i had beautiful eyes" and he thanked me for that. :)

I complained that the list wasn't supposed to be physical characteristics but he argued it could be anything he liked about me and that is what he chose to share with me.

hahahaha.

i checked the book and he was right. So much for that, "oh lindsay I love your kind and gentle heart..." :)

so after dinner I sat down to make my list.



it was so weird. I would get on a roll with great things about my hubby and then I would think of a random "negative" thing. That would get me on a bad path and a few minutes would go with frantic writing on the negative list.

the point of this love dare? the book talked about how whatever you focus on is what you will cultivate and grow in your relationship. 

try and stay away from that negative list. or if you have to visit it occasionally, write LOVE in huge capital letters with a sharpie over it. (theoretically :)

i think drew was getting nervous because although I had written my list, I hadn't "thanked" him for any of the characteristics. Look what happens to mosey into my lap after dinner, served by Drew.



peanut butter track icecream and some wine. without me even ASKING. :)

he was sucking up ;)

i waited awhile and then thanked him for what I was going to thank him for even BEFORE the butler service. :) 

thank you Drew, for being thoughtful :) 

"your spouse is a living, breathing, endless book to be read. Dreams and hopes have yet to be realized. Talents and abilities may be discovered like hidden treasure. But the choice to explore them starts with a decision by you.

you MUST develop the habit of reigning in your negative thoughts and focusing on the positive attributes of your mate. This is a crucial step as you learn to lead your heart to truly love your spouse.

It is a decision that YOU make, whether they deserve it or not."

so yes. cheesy. cheesy. cheesy. almost as bad as Drew thanking my for having beautiful eyes or him delivering me icecream and wine. it's more fun to focus on that though, instead of his horrid laundry folding abilities. (nah, who needs their pants unwrinkled? not me. ;)







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